Sweet Friendship, sweet love, with no expectations, just freely loving the other for who they are, it feels so right.
I have wondered what that might feel like and I had hoped to experience this kind of friendship with others in this lifetime. My chances of experiencing such a thing seemed rather slim to me. Over the years I have come across different people whom I longed to be their friend. Someone to confide in, someone to just share life with, with no expectations, just pure acceptance and connection. I would always be so disappointed when the friendship would wither away and it left me feeling so alone and like their was something wrong with me. This longing for a friend only to be left high and dry has made me curious as to why this happens.
One of my old habits was this, I always looked for a friend who was in the same religion as I. This is very common and totally OK. Most people gravitate towards those that think like they do. There is nothing necessarily wrong with that, it might just bite when either one or the other has a change in beliefs. This happened to me numerous times. This is called conditional love. Meaning your love for someone is based on certain conditions. This kind of love was the only kind of love I had experience with, my whole life. And I always wondered what unconditional love, shared in a friendship might feel like.
What I found for myself is that, not until I had dropped all my religious idea's and beliefs and learned to love myself unconditionally first was I then able to, even for a second, look at another human with unconditional love for them.
They key is this- Stop judging yourself and others and love what is. It is our conditioned mind that causes us all of the pain we have in this world. There is no harm in the world, it is the condition mind that creates all pain. For example, let's say I have a teenager who is rebelling towards me. They only reason I feel pain within myself is because of what I believe in my head. I believe the thought that my child is doing something wrong, whatever it might be and it causes me to suffer. What happens when I no longer believe the thought, my child is rebelling and doing something wrong? What do we know about what is wrong or right anyway? What happens when you drop the thought of, they are doing something wrong? Try it. Do you start to see and feel them more deeply when you drop all judgmental thoughts? Can you begin to see the beautiful person they are? That's unconditional love!
Oh my gosh, this practice has helped me so much. I learned it for Byron Katie. If you want to know more about it check out her website and YouTube
Channel. https://www.youtube.com/user/TheWorkofBK ----- http://www.byronkatie.com/
And so I began to practice this on myself and others. The results are amazing! This is one of the reasons I am falling deeper and deeper in love with the world and the people in it.
It's interesting how we are conditioned to judge everything and everyone and somehow we feel like we have to hang on to those ideas and judgment in order to save ourselves and our identity. It's a twisted belief and it doesn't work. It will do one thing and one thing for sure, it will cause you a lot of pain. If you want to be free from suffering, stop believing your thoughts and start questioning them. You will get so much peace and freedom and you will start knowing what unconditional love really feels like.
Tuesday, May 24, 2016
Sunday, May 22, 2016
What Is Home?
When you feel excited about being alive and about living this human experience you can know you are on the path that is right for you! It had been to long since I had felt this feeling and it feels like I'm home. This is the feeling of home. Home to me is no longer a place.
I have this memory- I was around the age of 13 when my family was traveling by Amtrak from the state of Washington to Wisconsin. In the waiting room in Spokane there was this older women sitting on the bench, beautiful women, she looked to be in her 60's, she had silver/white hair, I can almost picture her sweet face now. I was sitting beside her and asked her where she was going. She said she was going to Seattle, I don't even know if that was her home or not. I'll never forget the one thing she said, it has stuck with me ever since. I said said something along the lines of, "I bet you are ready to be home" and she just said very matter of factly, I am home, "home is where the heart is." That was 16 years ago. I believe she was an angle, maybe my Spirit Guide, I don't know. That statement has stuck with me to this day. I am beginning to see what she meant.
Home to me is a feeling, a state of mind, a feeling of connection- connection to oneself, to others and everything around me.
I am so glad to be home again! I had thought at one point that there was no chance in hell it would ever happen again on this side of eternity. I thought those days were long gone. We even have a name for it, "the good ole days" I am here to tell you they don't have to be called that. The reason we call them that is because we believe they can't happen again or that we can't ever feel that happy again, it's not true, unless we believe it to be. We can live the "good ole days" every day if we want to.
Ask yourself what was it that was so different back then? When you find what was the difference ask yourself, how can I get to a place of being and feeling this way again? This is not a couple hour job, maybe for some people, but it took me months to figure this out.
When we believe our thoughts we become them, when we question our thoughts we can become whatever we want to be. We are all able to live a life that makes us feel alive, no one is a victim of life, when life gets hard, look at the situation you are in and ask, what is there here, for me to learn? When you have the answer and have learned from it, be thankful for the experience and move on. Life is like a stream we can flow with it or fight against it. The choice is ours. I am learning/choosing to flow with it, take it for what it is and appreciate every second of it-
When we allow ourselves to feel everything and even question our feelings- the feelings move through our body rather than getting stuck inside of us, and then when we've learned what they came to teach us, they move on out. Now we are free to become what we came here to be.
My hope is that we can learn to embrace all the life has to offer so that we can create a better world for ourselves and our children. There is hope, so much hope. I am so grateful to experience life on Earth, it's beautiful- I see beauty everywhere, now.
I have this memory- I was around the age of 13 when my family was traveling by Amtrak from the state of Washington to Wisconsin. In the waiting room in Spokane there was this older women sitting on the bench, beautiful women, she looked to be in her 60's, she had silver/white hair, I can almost picture her sweet face now. I was sitting beside her and asked her where she was going. She said she was going to Seattle, I don't even know if that was her home or not. I'll never forget the one thing she said, it has stuck with me ever since. I said said something along the lines of, "I bet you are ready to be home" and she just said very matter of factly, I am home, "home is where the heart is." That was 16 years ago. I believe she was an angle, maybe my Spirit Guide, I don't know. That statement has stuck with me to this day. I am beginning to see what she meant.
Home to me is a feeling, a state of mind, a feeling of connection- connection to oneself, to others and everything around me.
I am so glad to be home again! I had thought at one point that there was no chance in hell it would ever happen again on this side of eternity. I thought those days were long gone. We even have a name for it, "the good ole days" I am here to tell you they don't have to be called that. The reason we call them that is because we believe they can't happen again or that we can't ever feel that happy again, it's not true, unless we believe it to be. We can live the "good ole days" every day if we want to.
Ask yourself what was it that was so different back then? When you find what was the difference ask yourself, how can I get to a place of being and feeling this way again? This is not a couple hour job, maybe for some people, but it took me months to figure this out.
When we believe our thoughts we become them, when we question our thoughts we can become whatever we want to be. We are all able to live a life that makes us feel alive, no one is a victim of life, when life gets hard, look at the situation you are in and ask, what is there here, for me to learn? When you have the answer and have learned from it, be thankful for the experience and move on. Life is like a stream we can flow with it or fight against it. The choice is ours. I am learning/choosing to flow with it, take it for what it is and appreciate every second of it-
When we allow ourselves to feel everything and even question our feelings- the feelings move through our body rather than getting stuck inside of us, and then when we've learned what they came to teach us, they move on out. Now we are free to become what we came here to be.
My hope is that we can learn to embrace all the life has to offer so that we can create a better world for ourselves and our children. There is hope, so much hope. I am so grateful to experience life on Earth, it's beautiful- I see beauty everywhere, now.
Saturday, May 21, 2016
As Within, So Without
I want to be passionate about the things I do. I can feel that I am becoming more and more passionate about seeing people become their best version. It makes me feel alive as I watch it happen. I want to share all that I know with whomever wants to hear so they might feel a bit of hope as they continue their journey towards freedom and peace. I think it is for the love of peace that people are coming to know themselves. We are living in a time where, peace, to many people can seem like a foreign idea. Not very many people I know, know the feeling of peace. I wonder if that's why the world seems to be in chaos? Because the inner of people reflects on the outside world around them. Whatever we feel inside we create that atmosphere around us. This is one reason I want to be at peace within myself and help others find peace within themselves. Because if it is true that we create that which we feel within, then if we want to see peace around us we must first be at peace within ourselves before it can ever happen around us.
I have noticed this in my own life. Especially in my own home. When I am at peace with myself I find that my house that I live in, what we call "our home" becomes a haven of rest and peace for souls who enter. I find also that when I am at peace within myself and a situation arises in which my children are having a hard time with their emotions, it is much easier for me to stay calm and walk them through there feelings, rather than rising to the same level of frustration and loosing control of my own cool. Parenting has definitely put me to the test in every way, I am so grateful to be learning what I am learning about emotions and feelings now, while my children are still young. I feel it will help them to get a good start in life.
I am convinced that we can create whatever we want to by by first feeling it within ourselves. It's one of the most amazing things I've learned thus far! As I learn it more, I fall deeper and deeper in love with the world around me. Unknowingly, a year ago I was creating the complete opposite of what I am today. Ha! If you know me at all you will know what I mean by that. Thank God, I have come out of the mindset I was in. I was creating nothing but war. I was at war within myself and creating it all around me. Now that mindset has been replaced by a better, more loving one, and the world looks completely different to me now. I hope for all people to come to know peace within themselves. It can change your world and bring peace to community's and beyond. It's a beautiful thing! Peace!
I have noticed this in my own life. Especially in my own home. When I am at peace with myself I find that my house that I live in, what we call "our home" becomes a haven of rest and peace for souls who enter. I find also that when I am at peace within myself and a situation arises in which my children are having a hard time with their emotions, it is much easier for me to stay calm and walk them through there feelings, rather than rising to the same level of frustration and loosing control of my own cool. Parenting has definitely put me to the test in every way, I am so grateful to be learning what I am learning about emotions and feelings now, while my children are still young. I feel it will help them to get a good start in life.
I am convinced that we can create whatever we want to by by first feeling it within ourselves. It's one of the most amazing things I've learned thus far! As I learn it more, I fall deeper and deeper in love with the world around me. Unknowingly, a year ago I was creating the complete opposite of what I am today. Ha! If you know me at all you will know what I mean by that. Thank God, I have come out of the mindset I was in. I was creating nothing but war. I was at war within myself and creating it all around me. Now that mindset has been replaced by a better, more loving one, and the world looks completely different to me now. I hope for all people to come to know peace within themselves. It can change your world and bring peace to community's and beyond. It's a beautiful thing! Peace!
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